A video I came across made me think about how people are so terrified to be selfish when in truth, human beings have always been selfish creatures. I am selfish, you are selfish, everybody else is selfish and that’s the truth. So why are we pretending like that’s not how it is?
Society insists that we should all be selfless because we were taught that selflessness is equivalent to kindness while selfishness is equivalent to all the negative adjectives you could possibly find on Oxford dictionary. And even though this principle is not entirely wrong in some cases, it is not right to use them against us as a way to manipulate and suppress the privilege we are entitled in.
It’s ironic when you think about it because the other person who accuses you of being selfish is actually being selfish too. Think about it: if I were to point and accuse you for wanting to have it your way, isn’t that an alternative way of me asking you to do things my way? I don’t think people can be completely selfless. I think as people, we are always going to be selfish, one way or another. It’s human nature, just like how we can never be completely non-judgmental towards others. Selflessness is overrated because everyone wants to embrace it so we can be good, so we can fit into society’s definition of good. We are afraid to embrace selfishness because we don’t like being told about our true nature.
One of the very many interpretation and definition led by society regarding the act of selflessness is to think about others first and ourselves second. That’s not right. That’s unfair. We should look after ourselves first; we should care about our happiness, what we want and what makes us happy. Nobody in this world is responsible for your happiness. This is the thing that a lot of people have yet to fully accept. I guess we all like to be served than to serve ourselves.
It’s tough for me to embrace selflessness and a lot easier for me to be selfish. I don’t mean to say that I’m a “me me me” kind of person all the time but I care about what I want because I know in the end, the one who has to go through this life of mine is me.
How do you feel about selflessness vs. selfishness?